How to talk to your parents about moving to senior living
Gentle, practical advice for starting the conversation about senior living, involving your parents in the decision, and supporting the first 90 days.
Start early and start small
The best conversations happen before a crisis. Begin with what your parents want from the next ten years, not with a decision about where they will live.
Listen before you suggest
Ask what worries them and what they would miss most. Acknowledge the loss of familiar surroundings before talking about benefits.
Involve them in every step
Visit communities together. Let your parents ask the questions, meet residents and choose what matters. People support what they help to create.
Try before you commit
Ask whether the community offers a short trial stay. A week of real life is more convincing than any brochure.
Supporting the first 90 days
- Help them bring familiar furniture, photographs and routines
- Visit often in the first weeks, then settle into a steady rhythm
- Introduce them to a neighbour or an activity that suits their interests
- Keep talking to staff about how they are settling in
This guide is general information for families. It is not medical, legal or financial advice; consult qualified professionals for your situation.